You should see the look on people’s faces when I tell them that I am 21 years old and I am expecting my second child. I don’t feel judged because I think it is genuinely shocking, especially during a time where the understood goal is to go to college, get a degree, find a stable job, and then settle down. Looking back at how far my husband and I have come since graduating high school, I know the path that my life is on is one that clearly has God written all over it.
If you would have asked me what degree I was pursuing in college, I would have told you nursing and then a semester later, elementary education. In my heart I knew I wasn’t meant to pursue either of these things. My heart was set on a career that didn’t exist at the colleges I went to. Eventually I had to quit altogether for my husband’s job (we had to move) and because I was pregnant with our first child. At that point, I had never thought about attending an online college but just a few months ago I took my first two classes and it was eye opening! I found the perfect degree, Sports and Health Sciences with a focus in Fitness and Wellness, and I was so excited to pursue it from the comfort of my couch. I didn’t have to find a babysitter so I could attend classes, I could be a stay at home mom and student (this was life-changing and it still is). Fast forward to now, I had to quit for another year because as you already know, I am pregnant and at the beginning of next year, we are moving (to who knows where).
As you can see, with each child and with each move I have to put off my education. For some people this would be really frustrating, and it was at first. I was about to begin my first set of classes when my husband and I found out that we were expecting and I was really upset about it. To me it wasn’t the perfect timing but God has a plan as he always does. As a young mom, I have a tendency to be a little selfish, but when I brought a child into this world I had to begin work on that part of myself. Yes, I should be able to get a degree, but it is my job to set that aside for the betterment of my family and my kids. And to be honest, I don’t want a career or a 9-5 job. I am living my dream right now being able to stay at home with my son and soon to be daughter. I have the opportunity that my mom, and that many moms don’t have! That doesn’t mean that I don’t want to be able to contribute financially though.
Which is part of the reason why I am here. I love to write and to share my life with others. Writing is a form of self care that works for me and I am passionate about it. It has been a career goal and a dream of mine to create my own blog (so thank you to everyone who follows)! Earning a Bachelors degree is another goal and it may take me several years to reach it, but in between the classes I am able to focus on my family during the transitions that require my full attention. My third major goal in life is to find a part time job at a wellness center or gym when all of our kids are in school OR to own my own business. I don’t know what type of business but the target market remains the same – women and moms who want to live a healthier, more fulfilling life. A part of this blog allows me to fulfill that desire to change lives or to build a community and could lead to me building my business in the future -God willing.
To sum it all up, I am a wife and a mom first because that is where my ultimate passion lies. If this is all I do in life I will still feel fulfilled because I know that this is what I was meant to do. Don’t get me wrong, it is really difficult (in a different way than working outside of the home) but I am so blessed to be able to stay at home with my kids.